Out of the quarrel with others we make rhetoric; out of the quarrel with ourselves we make poetry. (W.B. Yeats) Here lies that which is inside no more, that which burns my mind and must be expelled. Here lies the greatest of all inventions. Here lies words.
Thursday, May 27, 2021
Watching Over You
As I stand here
Watching over you
Watching you sleep
The rise and fall of your tiny chest
I wonder what the future holds
For you
For me
For the both of us together
The fun and games as a family
The outings to the beach
Or boating on the river
Creating memories that last a lifetime
In moments that are gone too soon
But I’m also filled with a fear
That I’m not good enough
That I might fail you
And I don’t know how to deal
With the overwhelming dread
That leads me to contemplate
Whether I should be here
Standing over you
Whether it wouldn’t be better
If it were someone else
Watching over you
Wednesday, February 24, 2021
The Night Shift
I hate it when you work the night shift.
The bed feels empty without you.
I don’t sleep properly not having you near
Though I slept for years on my own.
The kids have had their dinner
And I wonder if you’ll eat at all tonight
Because 6pm might be meal time here
But it’s the beginning of work for you.
I sometimes wish it would rain
So the crims would stay at home.
They’re no different from the rest of us,
They don’t want to be out in a storm.
Life here is dictated by routine,
By 9pm the babies are tucked up in bed,
But I don’t know where you are
Or what you’re having to face.
While I’m cleaning up the house
You’re cleaning vomit out of your car
From the drunk you’ve had to haul in
For picking a fight with a guy twice his size.
It’s just gone midnight but I can’t close my eyes.
You’re only half way through your shift
And I should be sound asleep
But there’s a feeling in my gut that won’t let me.
I will worry about you ‘til you return
And I can hold you safe in my arms.
My dreams are haunted when you’re away
Then I wake feeling like I haven’t slept.
I look at the clock and it’s not quite 3am.
Here, it is quiet and quiet can be
But I know you’re in the thick of it
And I wish you weren’t.
They say it gets easier to handle
But I can’t see how that is.
You are my world, my everything,
And I’d die without you here.
The 6am alarm is going off
But I’m already awake.
I think about hitting snooze
But I’m not sure there’s any point.
The sun is starting to rise now.
I know you’ll be home soon
But this is the time I fear most
Because last call outs are the worst.
But I know you’re in the right place
And you’ll come back to me each time.
I’ll get some restful sleep one day,
I just don’t know when that will be.
Monday, February 22, 2021
The New Kid
Walking into school
Not knowing anyone
Far away from friends
And worried about everything
Because you don’t know
Which teachers are nice
And which kids to stay away from
Or where the best spots are
When you want to sit quietly and read.
Will the librarian be strict
Or let you take an extra book
Every now and then?
Is the sports teacher cool
Or a hard arse
Who only has eyes for the very best?
Will that boys beat me up
If I look at him funny
Or sit in his seat in class?
Is the pretty girl going to laugh
When I talk to her
Or accept me for who I am?
You don’t know what you’re getting
Until you walk through those gates
And the world closes in on you
While you find your feet
And your voice,
And maybe being different
Isn’t different here
And I’ll fit in just fine
Even though I’m the new kid.
Wednesday, January 27, 2021
Men-Talk
The men folk meet at the local pub
Tired from a long day at the office
And looking forward to a few drinks
With their mates and colleagues
To celebrate making it through
Another week in the rat race.
They talk about sports they follow
Whose team is set to win or lose
And whether they’ll get to the game
Or watch it on their new flat screen TV
While they eat too many chips
And drink too many beers.
Someone asks how the kids are
And they brag about their achievements,
Or how much they’ve grown
Then, in the very next breath,
Complain about how messy they are
And that they won’t do as they’re told.
What no one talked about that night
Was Daniel’s two-week-old test results
That told him he had cancer
And would have been caught earlier
If only Matthew had mentioned
His father had the same symptoms years ago.
Christopher didn’t bring up the promotion
He thought he was going to get
But found out he missed out on
And now he doesn’t know how
To tell his wife they can’t afford the wedding
She’d had her heart set on.
No one asked Andrew and James
How the meeting with the adoption agency went
Because they haven’t brought it up
And everyone is worried that it’s bad news
So they don’t want to spoil the night
By bringing everyone down.
There’s an awkward silence in the group
When the news comes on because
That paedophile Ben used to work with
Is the only thing any of the stations
Seem to be talking about
And it makes him really upset to see it.
Luke told everyone he broke up with his girlfriend
When really she broke up with him
And he is heartbroken beyond belief
But guys don’t talk about that
They don’t show emotions
And they don’t share feelings.
Next week they’re going to Tim’s funeral
Because he bottled up what was happening,
And that black dog took over
Eating at him from the inside out
Until all that was left was a pile of clothes
And a note tucked into one of his shoes.
Mark can’t take it anymore,
He wishes he could have seen the signs
Or asked the right questions
Because his best mate is gone
And he’s lost and alone
In this sea of people smiling through their pain.
Paul sees the first tear fall
And then another and another.
He puts his arm around his mate’s shoulder
And doesn’t ask him if he’s ok,
He doesn’t need to hear that I’m fine lie again
Because he’s heard it too many times before.
He knows that just today
Eight people took their own lives,
Over one hundred more attempted,
And seventy five percent of those deaths
Were men just like the ones he’s sitting with
Who are less afraid of dying than speaking.
There’s not much he can do or say
To take away the pain anyone feels
But he is intimately aware of the need
For his friends to be open and honest
With themselves and with each other
So they can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
He reaches into his pocket for his wallet,
Removing a card that’s seen better days –
Its corners torn from months of indecision
But the number still bright at the centre –
“Just in case,” he says as he hands it over,
Wishing it didn’t have to be like this.
It didn’t have to be like this
And all it took was a small gesture –
No one could have foreseen in the next months
The changes that would come about
Because of a mate who understood
And a conversation three words long.
At Tim’s funeral, Mark made a promise
To every man that he knew
That he would not just ask if they were ok
But really listen to the answer
And to be there not just for Friday night drinks
But for those despairing 3am calls.
Luke confided in Mark how he was feeling
And they both realised they weren’t alone –
They worked through things together
And it came upon them like a revelation
That being mates was more than “how are you?”
And more than saying you’re not ok.
The boys rallied around Ben,
Because that’s what mates should do –
No matter what, friends are there to remind you
That it’s ok to be upset when you’re betrayed
By someone you should have been able to trust
And there is no time limit for feeling how you feel.
Andrew and James decided to tell the group
They had been approved for adoption
Yet hadn’t told anyone because
Of the fear of failure
That they wouldn’t get their child
That they wouldn’t be good parents.
Sometimes a vote of confidence
Or a practical helping hand
Can uplift a spirit when it’s down
Which Christopher soon found to be true
When he explained his distress
To be met with assistance all round.
And instead of going paintballing
The mates got check-ups instead
And made a roster for Daniel’s care
When the chemo took its toll
Of who was bringing meals to him
And driving him to his appointments.
But it took the loss of one of their own
To make these men take heed
Of the need to be more trusting
And to have those hard conversations
So, don’t learn the lesson the hard way,
Take notice of these words
Your mates will not think less of you
For being broken by circumstance –
They’ve probably felt the same as you
Or can empathise with you pain –
They are there to help you to rebuild
And forge a new and shining path.
Saturday, January 16, 2021
The Confession
On Monday I confessed my love for you
You said you had stuff to do
Nothing more was said on that
As I watched you walk out over the welcome mat
On Tuesday I confessed my love for you
You asked about my favourite shade of blue
I thought a while before I said
I’m really rather into red
On Wednesday I confessed my love for you
While we wandered through the zoo
You were busy with the snakes
And wondering what kind of a selfie a monkey takes
On Thursday I confessed my love for you
But you were concerned with what I knew
About transcontinental railway journeys
And whether they gave discounts to attorneys
On Friday I confessed my love for you
You powdered the end of your billiard cue
Trying so hard to look so cool
While at the same time playing the fool
On Saturday I confessed my love for you
We were standing there, admiring the view
The waves crashing on the beach
And birds flying just out of reach
On Sunday I confessed my love for you
You complained about your new shoe
And that you’d need to take it back
When you really needed to pack
One day I will confess out loud
For now, it hangs over me like a cloud
I really should tell you before you go
Monday, January 11, 2021
The Change in Me
I thought, as I grew older,
I would change much more than I have
But I am still the same person now
As I was when I was sixteen.
I am still the insecure little girl
Who doubted her abilities
Yet always tried her best
Regardless of the result.
I am still that hopeless romantic
Who craved love and affection
But never seemed to find it
Or even knew where to look.
I am still that anxiety-ridden teen
Scared to face the world
For fear of anything and everything
And nothing at all.
The change in me is insignificant –
Now I see my insecurities,
The hopelessness, the anxiety –
But what good does the seeing do?
No matter how hard I try
The doubt, the desire and the fear
Stay with me like a second skin,
A part of me I cannot remove.
Sunday, December 27, 2020
The Blank Stare
I know words are being said
I can see her lips moving
I can’t hear what it was, though
There’s just noise
I can’t make it out
The sound didn’t make sense at all
So, I’m just sitting here
Under the blanket
Trying to nod in the right places
But my head doesn’t want to move
The overhead lights are too bright
And I can’t concentrate
I think she’s asked me a question
He lips aren’t moving anymore
And there’s a slight tilt to her head
I don’t know what to say
I missed the question
And the stuff before that too
I think I missed a lot, actually
She’ll probably need to repeat everything
I should have listened
She seems nice
I probably should have listened
It seems like it was important
I was listening
Then I wasn’t
I’m not sure exactly when I stopped
There are a lot of machines in this room
She’s saying something, again
But the lights and beeps are distracting
I’m just looking at her
It’s rude, I should stop
But I can’t because she’s saying something
And it’s important
There’s a knot in my stomach
But I’m not hungry
It’s an angry knot
Not angry at the nice lady
Who is looking very concerned
And reaches down to touch my arm
“Mr Dugas, do you need me to go over it again?”
I blink
Tears are rolling down my face
There’s a lump in my throat
I can’t get those neurons firing
The words are stuck somewhere
All I can do is look down
And let the tears drip onto my gown
I suck in a deep breath
I don’t want to make her do this again
I nod quickly
I should have listened the first time
“I’m Dr Blackwell. I’m head of oncology.”
I don’t want to hear this
But I have to
Thursday, December 10, 2020
Mood
I’d like to escape from myself sometimes
When the sadness overwhelms me.
It’s always with me, deep inside
A sinking melancholy dragging me down.
I am forlorn and in despair,
There is nothing I can do
No saving grace to pull me through
And I must only survive this downheartedness.
I am not worth the time or effort
To repair my broken soul.
Just abandon me here,
Because I am not of any value.
It is laughable that I should be held
To be the best person for the job
Regardless of what the position is,
I will never meet the requirements.
I hate myself for feeling this way
But there’s no one to blame by myself,
Every day, I must atone for the wrong
That I have wrought every day prior.
I think about the world without me,
How much better that might be.
If I weren’t here to screw things up,
And no one would miss me anyhow.
I don’t want to go out to the movies,
Or read that book you recommended.
I don’t want to play football this year,
I just can’t be bothered anymore.
People say they’re trying to help
But they don’t stick around very long,
They get tired of me and leave,
Not that I blame them for that.
I haven’t slept in so long,
Not real sleep, anyway.
I lie awake at night, staring at the ceiling,
Wondering why I’m even here.
I don’t eat anymore.
Not unless I’m forced to.
The doctors say it’s unhealthy
But they don’t really care.
I just want to be left alone,
To stay in bed and not do anything,
I don’t want to move, or work,
Or talk to these people who say they’re friends.
Don’t talk to me right now,
I can’t focus on what you’re saying.
My mind is off, somewhere,
Anywhere but here.
No, I don’t know what I want to put on,
I don’t care what colour it is,
Why are you asking me to decide?
I don’t know what you want.
I stood at the top of the cliffs
I swallowed all the pills in the cabinet
I drove into a tree at high speed
But none of you will let me go.
The pain I feel is excoriating,
Every joint aches all the time.
I just want to be free from it all
And to not have the agony prolonged.
My bag is packed and under my bed,
Like it has been since I was twelve
I don’t want to be here
But you won’t let me leave this place.
Nothing I do is right,
I can’t live like this any more
The constant attempts and failures
Are eating away at my very soul.
You all have it so easy,
You breeze through every hurdle.
I hate what this world has made me
And I hate the world as well.
One day I will burn this place
And everything it contains.
Maybe it will take me, too,
And I will be at peace.
Friday, September 11, 2020
Paranoia
You wound me with your words,
They bite and scratch and claw,
The offend my sensibilities
And you do not offer to withdraw.
Though many may just let them slide,
You insult me with your remarks
That flow freely from your face
Without regard for the ire it sparks
I do not trust a word you say
And your actions betray your thoughts.
I have cracked the code you use,
I see through your ones and noughts.
You tell me you hold my secrets
But your eyes tell me you lie;
I hear my fears repeated back to me
And I wish for you to die.
Don’t you dare tell me I’m wrong
When I am nothing of the sort
Your criticism will not provoke me
When your arguments are fraught.
You say I’m overreacting
When I don’t take to your ugly declarations
But should my tears not flow freely
When you’ve turned against me whole nations.
You try to tear me down at each turn,
Spreading rumours like grist to the mill,
You want to destroy everything I have –
My art, my passion, my will.
You don’t want me to be happy,
Rather see me suffer your lies,
Treating me like a leper
Until there’s nothing around me but flies.
I always need to defend myself
When you hurl accusations at me
Or imply that something is all my fault
When it couldn’t possibly be.
You don’t listen to my explanations –
I repeat them ‘til I’m blue in the face –
But You tell me I’m wrong every time
When you know that’s not the case.
I don’t want to argue with you
But you won’t see things from my perspective.
You make me want to shake you
Until you aren’t as defective.
I yell, and I scream, and I shout,
And I punch holes in the lounge room wall
Because whatever I do isn’t good enough
And we must defer to your call.
But I don’t want to bend to your will,
I want to make decisions without compromise,
To take action based on my own choices
And for there to be no reprise.
I am the master of my own domain,
The king of my own castle.
You will not bring me undone
Or placate me with a shiny parcel
I cannot forgive the wrong you have done
And I will never forget them;
They haunt my every waking thought
And my dreams they do condemn.
They stain my opinion of you,
And scar every memory I hold
You damage me beyond all recognition
And leave me feeling cold.
I know you talk about me
When I am not in the room,
The whispers hidden behind hands
Are louder than a sonic boom.
I see all the deceit that you spread
When you think that I’m not around,
Fooling yourself that I don’t know
That your lies are not bound.
I’ve never liked the way you act,
Sneaking around like you’ve something to hide
And never giving me all the answers –
Even when I’ve caught you out, you’ve lied.
Your friends are not who they say they are –
They’re two faced and devious –
And I know you’ve told them my secrets
Going beyond mere mischievous.
I can’t trust anyone anymore,
All because of you.
I have no one to confide in
And you won’t get your due.
Once they hear your treacherous lies
They don’t believe a word I say.
But I will take my revenge
And you will rue the day.
I can’t be with anyone
In any romantic fashion.
They all leave me in the end
And I am bereft of passion.
They say I’m not the person
With whom they fell in love.
All I want is to find someone
Who fits me like a glove.
But that person isn’t real, you know,
Because you’ve turned them all away,
You take, you pinch, you steal from me,
But they’re just silly games you play.
It becomes harder to face the world outside
When danger lurks at every turn,
When people are against me
And want to see me burn.
I see their true intentions
But they hide their malevolence towards me.
They wear a mask of innocence
So the rest of the world won’t see.
My bosses will not promote me,
They keep me stuck in this dead-end job
It’s all designed to wear me down
So they can feed me to the ravenous mob.
They are afraid of my intellect,
That I will outshine them, every one.
Their small minds can’t see my vision
And they won’t stop ‘til I am done.
They listen in to my conversations,
They probably trace my calls.
Stealing my ideas and thoughts
My protest on deaf ears falls.
Each day they try to bring me down –
They conspire to see me fail.
Everyone is against me,
Their plot is beyond the pale.
They will not get the best of me.
They will not drag me down.
I see through their diversions.
I will wear the crown.
Wednesday, September 9, 2020
Always on my Mind
It’s always on my mind:
The unrelenting fear
Of not being enough
In this world so predicated
On the successful of everyone
And failure not being an option,
When I just want to exist,
To be at peace with myself
And the world around me,
Without the constant pressure
To be more than I am
On any given day.
It’s always on my mind:
The deep-seated resentment
I carry around with me,
Like a weight on my shoulders
That I cannot put down,
Burning its way through my soul
With every expectation
Placed mercilessly at my door
By those who choose not to understand
And are then offended by
The anger and bitterness
That spills from my lips.
It’s always on my mind:
The haunting poeticism
Of an everyday life
That is filled with days
And weeks, months, years
Of extraordinary ordinariness
That leaves no mark
And betrays no deeper purpose
Than that which society feels
Should be my place within its confines
And allows no room for self-expression
Or mould-breaking experiences.
It’s always on my mind:
The plaintive melody sung softly
By a heart that yearns to be free
Of the shackles of normalcy
And escape the overarching shadows
That dim the light inside me
To a point where I cannot see
Where I end
And the rest of humanity begins
As we form an amorphous mass
Of pseudo-intellectualism
And rabid hatred of other.
Saturday, August 15, 2020
Suspicion
There is a belief about me,
A story that people tell,
That I am something other
Based on nothing by idle gossip.
They have come to a false conclusion
Trying to fit me together like a puzzle,
When none of those pieces fit
And the picture is malformed.
The conjecture is pure fabrication
For none of them are willing to ask,
The pertinent questions go unanswered
When the lie is easier to hold.
They fancy themselves so righteous,
So completely at odds with who I am,
But they fail to see the harm they cause
By closing their minds to it all.
The feeling they get when they see me
Is somewhere between fear and hate
Because I challenge their long-held assumptions
About who belongs in this place.
I guess they’ve been protected
By a bubble of their own making
And should anyone try to burst it
There will be hell to pay.
You know that feeling in your gut
That tells you these people aren’t right?
I wake up with that in the pit of my stomach
And go to bed with it there just the same.
I had a hunch before I moved there
But I convinced myself I was wrong.
No place can be so backward thinking
They’d judge me for something I can’t change.
My hypothesis was sadly mistaken,
The people did not welcome me one iota.
They drew their blinds as I passed by
And crossed to other side of the road.
This idea that people are people
Is not so widespread as perhaps it should be,
When some are seen as better or worse
For no good reason that I can see.
First impressions can be hard to shake
But to be judged before you’ve done anything,
Or even spoken a word from your mouth
For anyone to take such offense.
I had an inkling as I pulled in my driveway
And saw all the curtains twitch
That it might take a while to be accepted
But I was willing to fight the good fight.
I should have trusted my intuition
Because this isn’t fight fairly fought.
You can try as you might to take the high road
But the low road has no bottom to reach.
They use every slur, every stereotype,
To wound you again and again
And though words should never hurt
It is a death by a thousand cuts.
As they curse you out on the street
Is baffling to me every time
And you’d think I’d get used to it someday.
I don’t believe in premonitions
But this feeling is so hard to shake
That things are not getting better
But getting worse with each passing day.
They speculate on my every action,
From where I go to what I buy.
Heaven forbid I talk to a soul;
I’d likely be run out of town.
The supposition that I am no good
Comes from the ignorant repetition of rumours
That stem from derivative works of fiction
Tainted by the bias of unfounded supremacy.
Please don’t ask me to surmise
How each and every one of them got to this point
For that would make me no better
Than those who would slander my name.
I could write an entire thesis
Just on the people of this small town:
From the narrow-minded bigotry
To the overt mob mentality on display.
One day I hope to change their view
But today is not going to be that day.
I am weary and don’t feel like fighting
So I’ll just stay in my home.
To regard others with suspicion
When they present differently from you
Is a learned human behaviour
That we all must one day overcome.
Fix This
How do we fix this
When the world is falling down
Around our ears
And I can’t see an end in sight?
I’m broken and afraid,
Crying out for reassurance,
In a world turned upside down
By events beyond my control.
The Madness
As the walls closed in
And the darkness fell
The sounds of the night
Crept into her ears
Her hands clamping about her head
Holding in what sanity remained
Against the screeches and screams
From beyond the brick walls
Of this lonely and lonesome place
From which there was no escape,
No distraction and no respite
Despite the frenzy of prayers
In this godforsaken place
To a non-existent deity
For a freedom that will never come
When lunacy takes hold of those
Who stand outside the door
That they no longer understand
What is right and wrong
And buy into the hysteria
Of the latest fad treatments
With no thought of the consequences
Of testing procedures on the manic
Without their permission
Or even their knowledge
Hidden from scrutiny by demented laws
Serving a master as unsound of mind
As those incarcerated in psychiatric wards
For indeterminate periods of time
Under the auspices of mental health
A true derangement of a system
Meant to protect the world from the insane
And the depressed from themselves
While the unstable run the asylum
Which makes the rest of us mad.
Sunday, May 17, 2020
The Fear
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It is the darkest part of me,
It preys on my emotions and
It rules my very sense of self.
It makes me to see danger and
It causes me to freeze.
I want to run away.
I want to hide from this foul thing.
I see it in the here and now,
I feel it in my future moments, and
I remember every passing threat.
It paralyses me.
It confronts me still.
It is inside me and around me.
It washes over me and through me, and
It falls upon my head.
The distress is overwhelming,
The impending doom overrides.
The evil veil obscures my sight.
The pain rises up and drowns me.
The vice grips my mind.
This is no reverential awe.
This sits in the pit of my stomach.
This beast inside me,
This horror that I cannot escape.
This which I have but owns me.
Beyond the mere concern it lies.
Beyond that daily dread.
Beyond the cloud of anxiety.
Beyond some mild apprehension and
Beyond all anticipation yet –
I cannot live without it,
I feel it in my very soul.
I want to be rid of it but
I fear what will be left and
I cannot abide the beast unknown.
It will, one day, consume me;
It will purge the last mortal vestiges and then
It will carry me to my grave because
It is the very fear inside, and
It is my only friend.
Saturday, May 9, 2020
Becoming a Parent
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No one really tells you what it’s like.
You hear the horror stories, of course.
And you hear about how you’ll never be the same
But you don’t know until it happens.
No one tells you how much of yourself
You lock in a box, away from harm,
Because there’s a little creature here
Who needs you more than anything.
No one tells you just how much you gain,
Feeling like your heart will burst,
And that, no matter how old they are,
You still have infinite love to give.
No one tells you how scared you’ll be.
Not just for this small human
But for yourself and your partner,
Through every trial and tribulation.
No one tells you about the doubt
And the second guessing you’ll do,
Because there’s no manual to follow
And no instruction leaflet.
No one tells you about the tears at 3am
When they have their first fever
And you don’t know who to call
Because your brain is fried.
No one tells you about the absolute pride
When they say their first words,
When they take their first steps,
Or when they buy their first car.
No one tells you that it’s ok to have a c-section
Or to adopt or use a surrogate,
And that it’s ok to feed them formula
Or let them cry themselves to sleep.
No one tells you about the piles of laundry
That never seem to end,
Even when they’re teenagers
And can probably wash their own clothes.
No one tells you about the mistakes you’ll make
Because we’re all only human
And no one is ever going to be perfect,
Not even that wee little bairn.
No one tells you about the good times –
The times you’ll get it fantastically right –
When you’ll jump for joy all day
And want to shout it from the rooftops.
No one tells you in a way you’ll understand:
You’ll hear the words they’ll say
But they won’t really sink in
Until you’ve lived every moment.
No one tells you because they can’t.
Sunday, July 1, 2018
In battle
Wednesday, January 28, 2015
All Too Sensible
A quiet melody is being played -
So soft and soothing, so pure -
But it is the only thing I hear.
Your voice may break through
Into the melody to become one.
Your words would sound just as sweet
Even if they were so harsh.
Look closely, deeply, into my eyes;
Don't be surprised by what you see.
There is a light behind them
That shines through for you.
Your eyes burn into me -
They tell of a hidden passion
Deeper than either of us knows
And it spreads to reality like fire.
Feel my touch on your bare skin,
Delicately my fingers pass over you,
But even this small contact
Has a power that is uncontrollable.
Your hands are refused their release
By a society that you created.
You are locked up, behind a wall,
And you can't reach out to another.
Sensations overwhelm us if we let them
But fear will never let us be happy
And, if we are afraid of feeling for one,
We won't feel for anyone at all.